I still need to look into better ways of handling people with short tempers and shutting them down even faster—especially family members.
For instance, Sis.
When Sis comes home, she has to complain—no, not maybe—about how people have treated her wrong in some way, even indirectly (e.g., staring at her, sitting next to her), or about a mishandled food, drink, or online‑shopping order. It’s usually one of those three things.
When you sit down in the same room as her—even silently and for just a brief moment—Sis will suddenly start talking about how judgmental her former high‑school friends and volunteer colleagues were. It comes out of the blue. Shortly afterward she claims you don’t understand her point, even though I haven’t said a word. This happens despite the fact that no one has spoken to her in the past 20 years.
On the last few trips to rural areas and across state lines, Sis becomes agitated, saying the journey prevents her from meeting a lover. Those men know how to gaslight a lonely woman; they repeatedly dupe her into feeling guilty and agreeing to meet. When Sis returns home, those men stop messaging her for long periods—sometimes years.
Overall, I don’t see the appeal. I refuse to justify anyone else’s behavior. No one wants to deal with a short‑tempered individual.
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